He's Just Not that Into You

So i finally decided to read it-by reccomendation from everyone. Though everyone i know who has read it certainly doesn't deal any better with boys now than before reading it.

The chapter on "the dissapearing act" helped me the most. You're dating somebody thinking it's going real great-then he stops calling, won't answer the phone, is nowhere to be found. It's hard to deal with because it's like 'wow, i'm not even worth a breakup!?' There's absolutely no closure in the situation. So somehow we think that yelling at them or asking what we did wrong with provide closure and make us feel better about the situation. They know what they did, why they did it, and that there's nothing we did-there just wasn't a connection. I was planning on saying goodbye to some people before i move, but what's the point? They dont care enough to find and talk to me. i guess i'm doing it more for myself. Somehow hoping it will provide some sort of closure.

This book tells us what we all know. but what girls make excuses to pretend they don't know. They're not calling us because they don't want to. I didn't suddenly become ugly, fat, and stupid-he just doesn't like me anymore. It's hard to except things exactly for what they are and realize there's nothing we can do about it and there's no specific explanation-people like each other and don't like others. That's all. The book is right; as soon as we stop making excuses, we'll start spending less time on useless situations.